Parents are often concerned about their children, fearing that they will be overwhelmed and unable to foresee the consequences of their decisions and actions. This often leads to overprotective behavior on the part of the parents. They intrude on their child's framework. A child notices that their parents aren't listening. When parents and children then argue, both sides want to defend their own opinions, and communication becomes very difficult.

It is crucial that parents follow their child's developmental process, that is, the development of the framework for decision-making and action options.

An important principle here, too: no more one-size-fits-all solutions are prescribed; instead, the child is given the framework to find their own solution. This solution is then tested by the parents. By learning about the child's own solutions, parents learn a great deal about the child's world of experience. This allows them to better follow the child's developmental process. Overwhelming or overprotective behavior is avoided by setting an individually appropriate framework for the child at each stage of development.